I read a quote from C.S. Lewis the other day, it said…
“Don’t use words to big for the subject. Don’t say infinitely when you mean very; otherwise you’ll have no word left when you want to talk about something really infinite.”
I really got caught up on the first line… ‘don’t use words to big for the subject”. I feel like too often people get caught up on trying to use these big words, and long drawn out sentences and explanations, almost trying to complicate what they are saying and trying to sound ‘smart’. It really irks me.
But, for a long time, I tried very hard to use the “right” words and dialogue, to say things and when I couldn’t, I just remained silent, fearing that I would sound dumb, unintelligent, and true to the southern stereotype of uneducated.
…..I don’t blame that on anyone but myself.
But I do have an issue with folks trying to sound smart. Why give me a 300-word explanation, using language that hasn’t been used since my grandmother was a child, to say something that can be said in everyday English, with less than 100 words. Don’t try to impress me with your words. I don’t care. And honestly, you make me feel stupid. All I care about is understanding what you’re saying and getting the point.
Honestly, if you do that, use huge words, drawn out sentences, and such… you lose me. I get frustrated. I get down on myself and I zone out. I end up getting NOTHING out of what you are saying. You just wasted the breaths you were given to pass along important information and tossed them out the window. And chances are, I am not the only one who you ‘lost’. You are either going to have to explain it again or I just wont come to you any more with question, or even better, I wont ever listen when you speak because I then feel to dumb to hear you.
I guess this was more of rant than anything, but still… just caught by the line. And thoughts of over complicating things that don’t need to be complicated. Don’t complicate the words of life, don’t complicate the love and its source, there is no need… I think they can speak for themselves and have done so for quite a long time.
You end up scaring people off, people that might need what is being offered, people that might be reaching for their last hope… just speak, don’t try so hard. Let the words flow from your heart, I promise they will say what needs to be spoken, directly to the source.